I just want to say god bless and have mercy on us all and reach out to anyone who can give me words of wisdom or encouragement. Today I practice what people call "tuff love", I let my 26year old son go, when he refused to admitt that he has an addiction and that he is in need of help. I pary and am hopeful that anyone in this situation will see some light in this dark tunnel and reach out for help.
This is the first step for both you and your son. Acknowledging there is a problem is tough. So much heart ache, second guessing, guilt. Take a deep breath and wait. There is nothing else you can do
Yes its never too late and each day can be a new start....as hard as that may be it is possible.....even a jail sentence to me now says - it can be a new start on the day you get released....
My son now 31 still lives under a bridge and is a meth addict. My husband and I were divorced 15 years ago and cannot communicate without him blaming me for what has taken place with our son. He is extremely well off - means nothing to me, but never has attempted to help our son - he has him arrested every time he steps on any of his properties - my son has spent 15 years in and out of county jail for minor drug offenses. Doesn't seem to even want to get off of meth. I moved from the area 4 years ago and have not seen him since. My son knew I was leaving and did not even get out of bed to say goodbye - I think of him every day and my heart breaks everyday. I'm trying to let go - he calls occasionally, but is always stoned. hurts so bad. Thanks you for letting me talk. Diane
It's important to tell our stories, our heartache, Diane. Thank you for writing. ~ Cheryl
This is the first time I have looked at this sight. I have three children with addiction problems and I am finally seeing how my guilt is enabling them. It is a very sobering but freeing realization.
My ex husband always blamed me for their for their problems. He was a Dry Drunk.
I think it is time to let all of them go and let the chips fall where they may.
Your experience has helped me to realize that I am not alone in this. Thank you for sharing.
These stories have helped me so much ! I try to read on here everyday , it has truly lifted me back up on my feet ! In time I will try to return the favor by sharing my story also ! God bless each and everyone of you !
I googled "mothers of drug addicted adult children" and thankful to have found all of these comments! Crying a river of tears. I'm so tired of dealing with the lies, deception, stealing, accusations, blame, etc. My grandchildren need a stable home so that they won't miss anymore school. Not sure how we'll begin the process. How do we prove to a judge that our adult child is an addict and that the children are better off with us? Thank you for this blog. It's exactly what this mother needed in order to know that I'm not alone.
I am so thankful I found this site. My 20 year old son is in rehab and is a week sober. I hope and pray he finds a new way and finds himself. He came to me and said he wanted to go and knew he would end up dead. I helped him, this is the only time I can financially do this so I can only hope he takes advantage of this.
Just realizing my grown daughter (22) is an addict. She is adopted and has mentall health issues she refuses to acknowledge. She is self-medicting and has been for quite awhile. I just didn't realize how bad until she found herself homeless and we let her move back home. It is so hard to have her here. I am so thankful for this site! I am totally unprepared to deal with all this and will be reading and checking frequently!
Beth, mother of a drug-addict.