We have custody of my husbands gd since 6/13 through CPS we did the whole foster care classes and licensing, parents were on heroin and signed over their rights 10/14. We are now waiting for everything to go to adoption court. She is a happy 3 yr old, they had no contact from12/13 until 01/15. My stepson called and said they are doing methadone and wanted to talk to her, after a couple of calls she started looking for a lot of reassurance of who her family is. She would repeat that we were her only family. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to or when we should be telling her whats going on. When they call and say its mommy and daddy she says no my mommy and daddy are right here. I wanted my husband to tell them to be clean for a while before they start contact but he doesn't know quite how to handle it. Reading all these posts just has me wondering how much this does affect these children.
I was a teen mom...now I'm 52 with 8 grandchildren, my daughters both have 4 children, by brothers. All patents are alcoholics/Pot smokers,my 15 yr.old granddaughter has tried vodka was caught, now I believe she is smoking pot:( on Nov. 21st, 21st 2014 molestation was discovered and confessed by 15 year old. I'm heartbroken , scared, just need grandparents to share with. The father has moved out, cps and police have open case. I'm staying at daughters home since Nov. Incident...tonight I smelt pot again in 15 year Olds room.everythings a mess ..thank you for listening. ..
My friends, this is Cheryl, the website owner, and I've just made an awful mistake: I accidentally deleted the long conversation under the title of "a grandma needing support". I'm so very, very sorry! I'm a grandma myself and not skilled in computer technology . . . . it's actually amazing I haven't done something like this before.
Allow me to renew my offer to any of you who would appreciate being able to converse privately: use the contact form (on the left) to write to me, telling me who you'd like to contact and giving me permission to share your contact information with that person. I'm very glad to put you in touch with each other :-) ~ Cheryl
I have been back on this site tonight reading all the posts; it has been several months since I have visited. Things are very much the same for us: my daughter is still addicted to drugs and we still have custody of our
granddaughter (she will turn 9 years old in just a few days). I have adjusted to this new life as a "parent" and daily life is much easier. I no longer cry every day which is really nice! I have come to accept "what is" and no longer try to change the behavior of my adult daughter. I see her with new eyes, full of compassion but no longer believe the lies she tells or the false hopes she used to feed me. Even though this is not the life I would have chosen for myself (I still dream of retiring!) this is the life I have and we are making it work. I am no longer in that dark place that first overtakes the parent of an addict. Life does go on and while I wish my sweet daughter was with me in this journey, I know that I have the best part of her living right under my roof and I am doing my level best to give her daughter a better life.
I am so happy I found your website. I, too, am facing an adult child (Jenn..daughter) who is an addict...She is now 30 and lives with her boyfriend, age 26 who is also an addict. She was an addict for 3 years in her teens and
got clean. The story is much worse. I have a grandson age 5 and a granddaughter age 2 who are now there. I am heart sick and feel like screaming in their faces. I have been through this before and will not go through it again. I am going to Celebrate Recovery to improve my co-dependence with my daughter. I just recently found out they are doing pot and possibly cocaine. I have been
praying that God will help me not lose my mind because of my grandchildren. I am looking for support as I try to figure it all out. I am still in shock that they would do this while having children. Please get back in touch with me. I am at my wit's end.
Thank you - Terry P
Misty writes: My daughter is 20 years old and a drug addict. She has a beautiful son who just
turned 1 and today I am having to file for an emergency hearing for temporary custody of him. I am having such s hard time dealing with all of the emotions coming out of this and all of the threats from her. We don't know what will
happen and I am looking for some support from other parents.