I was a teen mom...now I'm 52 with 8 grandchildren, my daughters both have 4 children, by brothers. All patents are alcoholics/Pot smokers,my 15 yr.old granddaughter has tried vodka was caught, now I believe she is smoking pot:( on Nov. 21st, 21st 2014 molestation was discovered and confessed by 15 year old. I'm heartbroken , scared, just need grandparents to share with. The father has moved out, cps and police have open case. I'm staying at daughters home since Nov. Incident...tonight I smelt pot again in 15 year Olds room.everythings a mess ..thank you for listening. ..
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Terri
1/10/2015 09:21:12 am
I am sorry for your pain. What about your life? You need and deserve a life separate from the lives your children and their children are living. We can't fix or control or manage other people. We just have to let them go.
cheryl
1/11/2015 10:16:07 am
Thank you Terri, Cheryl, I know what you mean about not being able to let go. How do you cut a part of you out of your life? You can't, at least we can't. My own sister was molested by her father when she was young and it was reported and nothing was done. I hope you have much better luck with this case. Our 25 year old son and his girlfriend are being thrown out of their grandmothers house due to arguments and antisocial behavior. They have a 5 mo old baby. Grandma doesn't know about drug use (pot and recently meth) we talked to CPS about it wanting to get custody of baby while they get their act together with no luck so now let's see what they figure out.
Terri
1/12/2015 05:55:38 am
Cheryl, I can't imagine the pain of having grandchildren to protect in the middle of all of this. I am just so sorry. I have learned that I can't live in chaos and function. At some point I have to get away from it all. Can you get custody of the grandchildren and get the adults who are causing the problems away from where you live? I am sure it is very complicated, and I just want to send you warm hugs and prayers that things will change for you all.
cheryl
1/13/2015 01:40:23 am
Ariaianne, Dear Cheryl, I really hope you got or will get some good news from the investigators. My son and his girlfriend have til the end of Feb to get out of their grandmas house since they have not been good housemates ie: fighting in the recent past, although they have stopped recently since she threatened to call the police, not keeping their space clean, taking and not returning dishes/silverware, and being antisocial. Grandma has no idea about the pot/meth use so it's just as well that they leave. I really hope they find a descent place and make it work this time. They could stay with us I guess if they agree to rehab 1st. I am REALLY tired of the stress and constant worry, but I can't stop. The little time we have with our grandson is so precious. Well it's time for bed, have to get me rest so I'm ready for tomorrow's drama lol:)
cheryl
1/13/2015 01:46:11 am
Hi Terri, 1/31/2015 09:14:50 am
So sorry , I have a daughter who lives with me and her dad, with her 9 year old daughter, our granddaughter. It is so very hard to not be able to help an addict child in our case a 30 ish daughter. They have to want to get better and fight like hell to stay clean. We try to get on with our lives , but very hard as you know. I am, not ready to give up. It has been 6 years but I allays think . maybe this time will be the time, she gets herself healthy. You love your child for who they really are, not the disease that has taken over them. 2/1/2015 01:23:47 am
I definitely choose to love my adult son but not his actions. I get depressed sometimes thinking about what a waste it is that he is not living his potential. But then I reach down within myself and I feel like there is still hope that he can be a much better Dad and person. It's VERY hard on me to hear anything else negative about him from family. It's like they are talking about me since he is a part of me, and I helped raise him and they usually blame the mother for any issues with the children. I just don't want to hear anything else negative, it is too much. I hope and pray that today will be the day he and his GF get their act cleaned up.
Debra Gajewski
2/3/2015 08:36:46 am
There is always hope....I will never give up . I understand completely. We are
Tamalyn
3/12/2015 03:18:28 am
Hello, I am the mother of a 31 year old daughter who is addicted to meth and/or heroin. My daughter is nothing but skin and bones and her face is covered with scars from picking and scratching. She has two of my grand children who are 7 and 11...since her husband is in jail for a dirty urine test, we all want to do an intervention giving her no choice but to get help and want to get custody of the kids while she's getting help. I know DCS is involved somehow, but we want custody of the kids, not the state. I love my daughter this addiction is killing her. I really need solid advise how to do all of this!!!...please help...
D'Arcy
3/23/2015 08:27:16 am
Tamalyn. Make sure DCS has your address and phone number. If they decide to take the children from her they will contact you. Most agency would rather put the children with a family member instead of foster home. Good luck.
Tamalyn
3/23/2015 03:22:11 pm
Thank you D'Arcy and this is what we all want to make sure happens. We do have DCF aware. We just want them to all be a family...it's so sad they really aren't and the kids are the victims. Again thank you Leave a Reply. |
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