I have a 34 year old daughter and a 5 year old grandson. They have lived on their on for about 4 years now. Prior to my daughter ever getting pregnant with her son she was a Meth addict. After getting in lots of trouble she was clean for awhile and through her son's pregnancy, however when she moved out of my house after her son was about 1 year old I did find paraphernalia in her house when babysitting for her one time. I confronted her with this and of course there was a lame excuse, (and it only happened 1 time! RIGHT). She eventually moved into a little rental house about 1 1/2 years ago, and I found some of the same paraphernalia there too. I know I probabaly don't have the right to snoop but I feel because of my grandson I do. Anyway, long story short, she's been laid off of work for over a year now. I had a friend that hired her recently for some office work , she had to use fake urine to pass the drug test because she said she had smoked some pot a coupe of weeks ago. She passed the drug test with this synthetic urine but then after 3 days on the job she was fired for being late. She has an unemployment hearing this week and if she loses she will have no income. Because of my suspicions of her using again I am going to demand a drug test before she moves back in with me. Is this wrong? I tried to get her to let me buy a drug test for her instead of using synthetic urine to see if the pot was out of her system and she got all defensive and said I was just trying to see if she was on drugs and wouldn't let me. What are your thoughts on this????
Beth, mother of a drug-addict.