Intensive Outpatient Programs

5/7/2014

My 28 year old daughter is finally, finally showing signs of wanting to be sober. The problem is, she's been to two inpatient rehabs and now wants to do the intensive outpatient program at The Peak Hospital in NM, but there are no places for her to stay. I've tried roommates.com, shelters (they usually
have drugs in them), small furnished studio apartments (they rarely come furnished), rooms for rent, sober living houses (there were none), hotels (my savings is almost gone).
Does anyone have any ideas or have heard of any place that has a definite psych aspect (her insurance is tired of paying for rehab so
we have to get her in under psych) that has dormitories, sober living, etc. attached to the hospital intensive outpatient program? We keep running into this problem. - Susie

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Susie

5/28/2014 06:05:32 am

Nevermind. I just got off the phone with my daughter. She just got out of the hospital with four prescriptions in hand. They got her meds calibrated. She was supposed to come home on a bus - which she conveniently missed and didn't contact me until 7:00 at night. It was too late for me to go get her, so she spent the night under a bridge and someone stole what she had - including her prescriptions. The doctor at the hospital refuses to right any more prescriptions for her because she thinks she filled them and sold them. Nevermind that you can check the insurance company and see if they were run. But now she's afraid she might start using again because she was self medicating. I've been pleading with God today to ask for His help, but I feel like it's falling on deaf ears. I know that's not right, that I should trust Him and know that He's working. I just told her not to bother calling me if she doesn't come home today (she said she's more afraid of using in our home town than where she is) and that I will not send her any more money. I sent her $20 this morning for food and bus fare.

walked in her shoes

10/8/2014 07:11:18 pm

Dear Susie,
I hope my comment does not hurt you because it's clear you've been hurt deeply by your daughter already, but qwhen I read your post I felt compelled to rep0ly. Your daughter is an addict. addicts lie, and your daughter is lying to you. You are frustrated because the doctor would not confirm whether or not the prescriptions had been filled. The Dr. has heard all the stories, the excuses, and the lies that addicts tell to get what they want, 100 times. She did not call because she already knows the truth. If she had called, to confirm the script was filled, your daughter would have come up with another lie to continue on her quest to get high. You MUST STOP ENABLING your daughter. IF YOU LOVE HER, you will STOP. If you continue to give her money, or a place to stay, or even spend your time trying to "help" her to find a place to stay, you are taking away her need to do these things for herself. SHE HAS TO LEARN TO DO THESE THINGS FOR HERSELF. SHE has to want it. Listen very carefully to my wiords, please. YOU ARE NOT HELPING HER. YOUR ACTIONS ARE ALLOWING THE NIGHMARE to continue. I know you don't want to believe this, but I promise you, and I CAN make this promise to you: If you continuie to try to save her, you are just helping destroy her. If you don't want that on your conscience, then STOP. TODAY. Pray - yes. Send money - no. You HAVE to walk away. When you are not there, strugglinkg to hold her up anymore, she will have to help herself. Don't believe her lies anymore. Drug addiction is an illness, but it's the one illness that is recoverable IF the sick person REALLY WANTS to get better. Using is a DECISION your daughter makes. Don't feel sorry for her. If you trust her so much, you should trust that she will choose to get better. I will poray for you boith - especially you, because experience tells me this is harder on you than it is for her. I hope God will give you the strength to do the right thing. You are not a bad person -- just a fool, if you continue to let her manipulate you like she has. Trust me, I know.

Dani

6/27/2014 03:31:12 pm

I wanted to tell you how brave you are to tell your story. Thank you. How is your daughter?

I have four children. Two are addicts. Did you have any luck with the Peak hospital? I am searching for a detox in nm.

Susie

7/1/2014 05:30:21 am

Hi Dani,

Thanks for the feedback. The Peak hospital was great. It was her insurance that only let her be there for 10 days.UBH in El Paso was also good. She thinks they actually did her more good about understanding why she does what she does than Peak, but she had more time at UBH. The thing Peak did well was to get her settled well on psych meds...

St. Vincent's Hospital in Santa Fe has a detox, but I don't think they have any kind of therapy associated with it. She's been there a few times - and they have helped her look for rehab places so that's a possibility.

She's not exactly sober right now because she's had some health problems (internal bleeding and a large ovarian cyst) and the doctors gave her percocet which I'm unhappy about. Since it's an opiate, she's been grumpy, moody, just all around mean so the less we have to do with each other the better. She has a job starting July 16 at a new store in town, let's hope she keeps it and does well. I'm sorry you have these issues with two of your children and wish you well. Let me know if you want/need more information or just want to talk. It's tough.

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