months ago, our lives began falling apart when my 31 year old son admitted to meth addiction. He lost everything including his wife (a user also) and daughter, friends, house, job and car. As a family, we were going to do an intervention but just prior to this, my husband became ill and we called the ambulance. I made my son go in the ambulance with his dad, as I believe it was
the stress of his addiction that caused the illness. Anyhow, as a result of this, he agreed to go to rehab. He did 90 days at a private rehab about 3 1/2 hours from where we live. He appeared to make progress and began to look healthy again and not like a POW. He moved back home with us, attended meetings
etc, got a job, but I felt there was still dodgy behaviour going on. Constantly on his phone all times of the day and night. My husband and I had booked a holiday six months prior and we decided to still go, even though I felt really uneasy about it. As it turned out, the very day we left, he had planned a reunion (for want of a better word) with a couple of other addicts from the rehab. Of course he had lied to us and said he was going to a boot camp for football. He was in such a state he could not attend work and asked our older
son to make an excuse to his boss. Our older son and daughter, although not wanting to ruin our holiday, decided we should know what was going on. We were thousands of miles away but decided not to come home, but spoke to him and told him he had 24 hrs to leave our home and the locks were being changed, which he did. When we returned our relationship was very strained to say the least. He subsequently lost his job (has since found another one) but does have contact
with his daughter. His brother and sister told him they cannot have a relationship with him until he is clean for a very long time. My husband and I still see him but are in complete agreement we will not pay any bills or enable him any longer. He is making his own choices. It breaks my heart that we can no longer have family events (he is not welcome to his sister or brother homes)
Birthdays , Christmas and other special occasions can no longer happen. I feel like I have spent my life building this wonderful family only to have the foundations cave in and this disease is calling the shots.
Thank you so much for this amazing page where I read other people's heartbreaking stories and know that if I could give them a hug I would. For the first time in a very long
time, I feel I am not alone.
God Bless You and thanks again, - Sue