I was wondering the same thing!?!?!
I have a step daughter who's 19. She recently graduated high school & started community college. After, maybe 2 months tof college she dropped out, really saddens me because Which saddened me because she'd had such high hopes for herself. Never understood why taking all but one class online was so hard.
Through her visiting with friends while at our house, I over heard her say it was because she'd been taking so many xanax bars & that her mother knew this bit they hide it from her dad.
She gets job offers frequently, when she looks for work. But seems to quit soon after starting, i believe 4 days is the longest she has remained employed.
Her mom & dad divorced close to 8/9 years ago. She LOVES using the divorce as a crutch, for anything & everything she can. She & I haven't been able to get as close as I would like to. I have a daughter about her age. And she doesn't care for my rules for my daughter. Whenever we would try to get forceful she just doesn't come around or gets her mom to lie for her.
She got kicked out of her moms house for stealing her credit card & charging $1000.00 on it. She received NO repercussions from her mother. About 2 weeks ago, mom gave her her credit card & told her she could purchase x, y & z, later learning that OVER $2,000.00 had been charged. Again no repercussions. Which you would think over $3,000 she'd have gas & cigarettes, but never does.
Recently, she's been having a rough time on her own. We assumed that there was more going on than what we had been told. But due to her continusely using the divorce, she pretty much gets whatever she wants, including her dad believing whatever far fetched story she uses.
Recently we were told that she had been shooting dope. When her dad asked her about it she said oh yeah tried it once won't ever do it again. But when my daughter asked her, she was told she still does her xanax, was shooting up dope but now smokes it, smokes weed & one i couldn't believe, has been using heroin.
Now, I'm stuck trying to decide what to do. Our daughters confide in each other during the times that they are getting along. My daughter didn't want to tell me & lose the ability to be able to find out things & being there for her step sister when she needed her. But also, once she'd been told that because of using drugs her sister hadn't slept in almost 3 days, knew that she needed to turn to someone to assist her in helping her sister.
I don't want the 2 girls arguing & mad because I was told what was happening.
Dad is so upset with her over her moodyness & attitudes that he isn't wanting to talk with her right now.
I realize shes 19, so she cant be admitted for help unless she wants to go. But she could accomplish so much in her life if she'd leave drugs alone. Like I mentioned before we are not as close as I'd like, & noticed yesterday that I have been deleted off her social media. I treat that girl like my own & worry about her just the same, I've heard people say that you have to let them hit rock bottom & I am so worried what could happen to her if I turn away like I don't know this is happening. (Obviously everyone on both sides don't believe she would ever do such things)..
Guess- ideas, suggestions, advice, anything really at this point, is more than I have now!!
Thanks in advanced, worried, scared, lost,
Beth, mother of a drug-addict.